Let me start out by apologizing for the language. The reason why I could not resist posting this video is due to its relevance to class and shock value. Our recent discussions in class about body language pointed to being confident but careful during our listening post assignments. To be as mindful of our body language as we are of our questions.
Prof. Reisner commented that when a person enters a place with an insecure attitude, unsure body language, or isn't dressed properly for the occasion you draw the wrong kind of attention. "People smell fear" said Reisner. However, this 'confidence' had to be built.
Based on what I've gathered the way to do it includes: research, an open mind, honest curiosity, confident stature and clear sense of purpose.
Research in its current student definition is to go online and google-ing it. For this type of assignment that is not enough. You have to look into the community that congregates there. Look at what are their issues, their history, what brings them together and why. Luis, a classmate, mentioned that going to the establishments around it beforehand might help ease the nerves. All this is part of research.
An open mind is probably as crucial as the research. You have to be understanding, not pitiful. Be susceptible to their stories, put yourself in their shoes. Be conscious that they are just like you; Human.
Curiosity is good but you have to display it in an honest and respectful way. Never assume anyone's reality before asking. If something crossed your mind put it in the context of your research, your own personal experience or lack there of. Never assume that you'll offend them if you ask. Just be natural about your question, be conversational. Be observational, listen to the background music, look at the city it's in, look at the way people approach each other, the language they use (profanity, lingo, etc.). Look for contradictions within the establishment and the people and/or the people themselves.
All these steps will help you have confidence. Walk in with a plan. You don't have to plan out the entire visit but at least have in mind who's the first person you want to talk to. Dress properly and don't be afraid of being looked at differently. Go to the level of the people with which you are interacting but don't be condescending.
I post this with the intention of having everyone add to it. Post your comments and lets make a manual for our future visits.
I think each listening post may require a different approach, but as you said something that is basic to reach others, specially those who look or think much different than us, is confidence. Now, how can we get that? I think just by been ourselves, having an opinion and letting our thoughts come out. Obviously, like in any situation, we may want to measure our words, so we can avoid being disrespectful. However, I think, we shouldn't be ultra polite if that is not the way we are. Yes, people smell fear and they also smell falseness. Our goal is to get the story, so first we need to be trusted.I personally, tend to trust those who seem authentic, no matter how different or crazy they may be.
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